Help me help others (or stfu)

2021.10.27 15:23 Humpasaurus2018 Help me help others (or stfu)

Hi there, I (29m) have been happily married to my wife (30f) for almost seven years now. We met in high school and have two young kids together. After having spent time raising my daughter I’ve learned just how important it is to make sure I’m building her up in every possible way, no matter how small. Little compliments about anything I can and praise for the things she does right every time. This has caused her to be very confident in what she’s capable of and a willingness to try new things and better herself. I’m extremely proud of her every second.
My wife grew up in a harsh and praise less house. She’s of middle eastern ancestry, and while I don’t want to generalize at all because I’m certain not all families are like this, where her parents are from and how they were raised caused them to be very neglectful when it comes to their Children’s feelings and mental well-being. They were always physically well cared for my love and emotion were very scarce. She was basically a duty bound housekepper while her brother was given everything with no responsibility. How she escaped stable I’ll never know. But I’ve spent the years building her up too and it has been an incredibly difficult task that I’m just now after ten years together starting to see the effects of.
I write you this wall of text to ask for permission or advice. Let me preface by saying that my wife and I are very happy, we are the only people we have ever been with after meeting at 16 and marrying at 22. I can’t and won’t even consider being with someone else. But I want to be an ally and help build people up. I want to help people feel good about themselves even if just for a moment or two, maybe that makes al the difference to them for a day. The struggle comes from trying to compliment women without coming off creepy and frustrating to deal with.
A scenario: Last week I took my daughter to the doctor and the receptionist had the most shockingly deep blue eyes. And I found myself really wanting to tell her how pretty I thought her eyes were, but I really didn’t want to come off as just another creepy man trying to hit on her at work. So I spent the day trying to come up with a way that it could be done respectfully and here’s what I came up with. Next time right when she says “have a great day” or whatever, I would just say “btw, you have very pretty eyes, thank you for all your help, you have a great day too.” I’m hoping that this would come off as me wanting to pay a compliment but not needing to stay around reaping some kind of reward for it.
Can the folks here help me understand if that would be ok or should I just stfu and keep it to myself and not bother this person at work. I’m completely open to being told my perspective on this is wrong and it will only come off as creepy and inappropriate. I just feel like if more compliments were being handed out freely without all these strings attached every time the world might be a better place.
If you got through all this then thanks for reading and sharing your time with me today.
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2021.10.27 15:23 LurkWhileYouWork Question About Filtration Systems

Apologies in advance if this isn’t the right sub to post something like this in, but I’m looking for some guidance on filtration systems. I’m know virtually nothing about plumbing, just looking for advice.
Long story short, my wife and I just bought a house a couple months ago in the Houston, TX area. The first time we turned on the bathtub, the water had a yellow tint to it, and left sediment in the bottom of the tub when it drained (only with hot water). Figured the water heater needed to be flushed out, so I called a plumber. Sure enough, the tankless water heater had not been flushed out in the 4 years since it was installed in the house. After flushing it, the water looks a lot better (maybe still a very slight yellow tint to it), and I don’t really notice any sediment left when it drains, but I want to avoid having this issue again in the future.
The plumber that flushed it out said that there was a lot of sediment build up in the pipes that would likely eventually cause issues with the plumbing throughout the house. He also said that some of the sediment in the bathtub appeared to be metal, which he said was likely from the copper pipes. He recommended a filtration/purification system, but he doesn’t work with filtration systems so he didn’t say much beyond that.
I had another plumber come out to give me estimates on a filtration system and there were 3 things that he talked to me about:

  1. A carbon filter system. He said the chlorine levels at our house were at 1.5 parts per million. From what I’ve read online, it sounds like that is a safe level. Is a carbon filtration system something I should get at those levels?
  2. Flow-tech descaler or a water softener. I don’t really love soft water, so I don’t necessarily want to get a softener if I don’t need it. I’m mostly concerned about discoloration and sediment build up.
  3. A sediment filter. I feel like this is what I need the most.
Ultimately my question is, if my main goal is to have functional, drinkable water that is not discolored and has no sediment in it, do I need a carbon filtration system or a water softener, or would a sediment filter be sufficient?
I’m happy to provide any other context/information that may be needed.
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